"We are unerring in our choice of lovers, particularly when we require the wrong person. There is an instinct, magnet or aerial which seeks the unsuitable. The wrong person is, of course, right for something -to punish, bully, or humiliate us, let us down, leave us for dead, or, worst of all, give us the impression that they are not inappropiate, but almost right, thus hanging us in love's limbo. Not just anyone can do this".
Hanif Kureishi, Midnight All Day